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11 Tips On How to Avoid Heartbreak

Published February 14, 2014 by konchk

I thought I would be fully prepared to give some all-knowing love advice, in the spirit of gold ole Saint Valentine’s Day. But if I were to be perfectly honest,  I don’t know the slightest thing about love. I only know the “what not to do or you will get terribly hurt” tips. I guess I can share a bit with all of you lovely ladies out there.

1. Don’t be yourself. When you start showing your inner weirdness you seem…weird. Boys like to be able predict an outcome without any effort involved into getting to know you.
2. Don’t ever show you care. They will use that against you to get what they want.
3. Don’t show your feelings. Those things are a nuisance.
4. Don’t go out of your way for them. It’s giving them a reason to expect you to go out of your way.
5. Don’t share any personal information.  They don’t want to know.
6. Don’t expect anything out of them. You will be thoroughly disappointed and awkward conflicts arise.
7. Don’t ask for a future with them. If they didn’t ask you for one,  it means they don’t want one.
8. Don’t look anything less than a Victoria’s Secret model. Men are purely visual and criticize anything less than perfection.
9. Don’t date because you want to form some meaningful connection. Date for some easy sex.
10. Don’t text the guy faster than he texts you. And don’t even think about texting first. You’ll seem over eager and easy.
11. Don’t fall in love.

Scratch that…. these are all rules if you are wasting your time on the wrong guy.  There are fish-a-plenty out there. There are men who would willingly treat you like a lady. And even if it takes you forever to find him,  you’ll still be okay. I’m sure there is something about you that’s pretty/amusing/funny/smart/absolutely stunning. You most definitely deserve someone who can make you happy. That’s about it…. Don’t mind me. Gonna go finish that Domino’s pizza I ordered.

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What Neuropsychology Has to Say About Male/Female Minds

Published February 6, 2014 by konchk

Male and Female Brains

I am, as of now, looking for another way to side-track myself from perfecting my essay for Neuropsychology. Paper due tomorrow. It’s a pretty cool article that I need to kick my butt into gear and write about, if I must say so myself. Put this on your must-read list: https://bb.ndsu.nodak.edu/bbcswebdav/pid-2590604-dt-content-rid-11339623_2/courses/143-NDSU-16053/PNAS-2013-Ingalhalikar-1316909110.pdf

In short, there are a bunch of fancy words that basically say what we all know about the differences of the brain structures of dudes and dudettes. Basically, guys can only think about one thing at a time and gals think about everything all at one moment. I’ll try explaining it in better terms: Men have faster neural connections in one hemisphere at a given time, while women have faster neural connections between both left and right hemispheres.

This makes it so dudes can perform on spatial and motor related tasks. For example: Man sees how far away football is. Man can catch football. Ladies, on the other hand, are able to use those interconnections in both left and right hemispheres to, let me quote: “to facilitate communication between analytical and intuitive processing modes”(Ingalhalikar, Smith, Parker, Satterthwaite, Elliot, Ruparel, Hakonarson, Gur, Gur, & Verma, 2013). Basically, ladies focus on memory and social communication with other humans. For example: Lady looks for ways to assess and understand social situations so she can make problem-solving decisions and communicate her desires. I do suppose I am a bit biased because I am part of the female gender, but you get my drift…even if you have intra-, instead of inter- neural connections.

I guess this is partially where the whole, male-female tension stems from. From a male’s perspective, the female is thinking too much or looking too deep into a situation. Why not just catch the darn football? It’s five and three-quarters feet in front of you! From a female’s perspective, the male isn’t thinking nearly enough. Why do you need to catch that football? What good is going to come out of it? How do you think catching that ball is going to do good for anyone? Why not do anything more useful/meaningful with your time? To spell it point-blank for all of you lovely ladies out there–most of the time, guys don’t think about everything all at once like you are. They probably aren’t wondering where you got your dress or what you’re feeling at that specific moment unless you straight-up tell him. I’m not bashing on any gender in particular…we’re all just different, thanks to those complex neurons firing in/between our left and right hemispheres. And men, women don’t merely think too much or are digging too deep into a situation. Maybe they see something you might be missing because you were too busy trying to perfect those precious motor skills of yours.

Well, yep…That’s all I have to say at this particular moment. I should probably stop distracting myself. I’ll go write that darn paper.

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